Monday, September 28, 2009

The Greatest Pain in our Life

The Greatest Pain in our Life

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The greatest pain in life
is not to die, but to be ignored




To lose the person you love so
much to another who doesn't care at all




The greatest pain in life, is not to die, but to be forgotten



For friends to always be too busy to console you when you need
someone to lift your spirits





When it seems like the only person who cares about you, is you



Life is full of pain, but does it ever get better


Will people ever care about each other,and make time for those who are in need?



Each of us has a part to play
in this great play we call life



Each of us has a duty to mankind
to tell our friends we love them



If you do not care about your friends
you will not be punished








You will simply be ignored... forgotten... as you have done to others





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i hope u like it all..cuz it has alot of meanings..

Always Have A Dream


Forget about the days
when its been cloudy, but
don't forget your hours in the sun



Forget about the times
you've been defeated, but
don't forget the victories you've won



Forget about mistakes
that you can't change now, but
don't forget the lessons
that you've learnt



Forget about misfortunes
you encounter, but
don't forget the times
your luck has turned



Forget about the days
when you've been lonely, but
don't forget the friendly smiles you've seen



Forget about the plans
that didn't seem
to work out right, but


Don't forget to Always Have A Dream !

Ladies First

Ladies First

It is common to hear the expression 'ladies first'. Women, in particular, daily repeat it as if it is a rule. They actually feel proud of it, unknowing its origin and its real indications. They think it is praise to them, while it is a shame to be said according to its origin

The story of this saying took place in Italy. It is about two lovers who loved each other so much. They decided to marry. But some social circumstances and relatives block the way of their marriage. They did not accept this and intentionally decided either to live together as husband and wife, or to die together

Having done best to achieve the marriage, they got disappointed. Dying together was the only option. They thought about a number of ways to commit the suicide

Throwing themselves into the sea was the appropriate way to them. The man sincerely said he would not bear the situation of seeing her drowning to death in front of his eyes. He convinced his beloved that he would throw himself first and then she would do so latter

In the rush moment, the man did it and drown. The lady was looking at him as if he was 'singing'. The man was dead. It was the lady's turn to follow him to live together underneath, as they decided. But she soon broke her promise, forgetting her sweetheart who was dying in front of her eyes and in heart as well

She 'threw herself back to the village'. Yes! Her promise was to throw herself. And she did, but to the village instead of the sea

She came back home, to her relatives as if nothing has happened. Few days later, she fell in love with another man. She was happy with him as if it was her first love. It did not take a lot of time till she got married to him

Since then, people start doubting ladies and start repeating the saying 'ladies first', with the implication that ladies should throw themselves into the sea first, should die first, because they are not trustworthy

It is really interesting when one hears a lady proudly says 'ladies first', thinking that she adds a privilege for being a female. Some people, men and women, take it as a social rule, unknowing its real indications.

This is not a personal point of view. It is not, moreover, a personal interpretation of the story. It is what many sources say and interpret the original story. So, women please forgive me for shedding light on this

I do only a favor for women so that to be aware of when to say 'ladies first' and when not to say. For me, I don’t care if I hear a woman saying this. I way ignore or pretend deafness. But others may take it a matter of satire

Having known this, women may reject this saying. They may claim that 'Ladies last' is better

This saying has been common for several years. And men never reject it. Though the proverb has a negative implication on women, men do really accept it as it is, following it as a matter of respect to women whenever they come across

See the difference, men do not feel teased whenever women shout for being 'the first', unknowing its real implications. But the case is taken differently by women when the verse happens

In spite of this, men will not change their respect and intimacy to women. They will take women to be first when they positively look at 'ladies first'. And similarly, they will insist to make 'ladies last' when it is negative to put them at first. The problem, however, lies in women themselves who do not accept everything normally as it is

Women claim to be first. They do not take it normally whether to be first or last. Men, on the other hand, accept women to be first not for the saying 'ladies first' but for the social respect of men towards women

So it is only a matter of respect. It is not a rule, and it is better to be not a rule because it will be a negative aspect of women

Spotlighting on this is not to provoke the matter between men and women. But it is to learn a lesson that both are 'first and both can be last'. There must be mutual acceptance and integration between the two sexes. So this is a call firstly for women, because of "ladies first", and secondly for men to look at the matter through the mind's eye

Positive and Negative


Positive and Negative


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Positive: Think about a solution


Negative: Think about the problem


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Positive: Endless Ideas

Negative: Endless Excuses

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Positive: Helps Others

Negative: Helped by Others




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Positive: Sees a Solution for each problem

Negative: Sees a Problem for each Solution




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Positive: Solution Hard but possible

Negative: Solution Possible but Hard




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Positive:Achievement is an accountability




Negative: Achievement is a Promise


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Positive: Has Dreams He Needs to Fulfill


Negative: Has Disillusions He Needs to Get Rid of.

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Positive: Treat others as you want to be treated




Negative: Fool others before they fool you


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Positive: Sees Gain in Work


Negative: Sees Pain in Work


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Positive: Sees the Possible in the Future


Negative: Sees the Impossible in the Future.



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Positive: Selects what to Say

Negative: Says what he Selects

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Positive: Strong Discussion with Soft Language

Negative: Soft Discussion with Strong Language

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Positive: Holds on Values and Forgoes Casual Issues

Negative: Holds on Casual Issues and Forgoes Values

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Positive: Makes Events

Negative: Made by Events

he best qualities of good friend



The best qualities of good friend



A good friend is a blessing from heaven.He should have a good character that reflects his good manners.He is honest and faithful to his friend and is always ready to stand by him and back him in any crisis.Therefore,he is reliable and fulfills his promise.The wisdom says"A friend in need is a friend indeed".

On the other hand, a really good friend is tolerant.He tolerates others and doesn't criticize but tactfully advises his friend when he need advise.A good friend is good patriot.He loves his country and does his best to serve his fellow citizens and never thinks of betraying them.

Crazy English




Let’s face it: English is a crazy language. There is no egg in eggplant or ham in hamburger, neither apple nor pine in pineapple

English muffins were not invented in England or french fries in France. Sweetmeats are candies, while sweetbreads, which aren’t sweet, are meat

We take English for granted. But if we explore its paradoxes, we find that quicksand can work slowly, boxing rings are square, and a guinea pig is neither from Guinea nor is it a pig. And why is it that writers write, but fingers don’t fing, grocers don’t groce, and hammers don’t ham? If the plural of tooth is teeth, why isn’t the plural of booth beeth? One goose, 2 geese. So, one moose, 2 meese? One index, two indices? Is cheese the plural of choose


If teachers taught, why didn’t preachers praught? If a vegetarian eats vegetables, what does a humanitarian eat


In what language do people recite at a play and play at a recital? Ship by truck and send cargo by ship? Have noses that run and feet that smell? Park on driveways and drive on parkways

How can a slim chance and a fat chance be the same, while a wise man and a wise guy are opposites? How can the weather be hot as hell one day an cold as hell another

When a house burns up, it burns down. You fill in a form by filling it out and an alarm clock goes off by going on

When the stars are out, they are visible, but when the lights are out, they are invisible. And why, when I wind up my watch, I start it, but when I wind up this essay, I end it

Funny SMS

Funny SMS
enjoy it


SomeOne..
MiSSES U..
NeeDS U..
Worries About U
Lonely Without U
Guess Who?
THE MONKEY IN
… THE ZOO ..




Do u remember the day we travelled in a car?
I put my dog out of the window,
u put ur face out,
then people started shouting
‘TWINS TWINS

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so funny


TEACHER:
what is the different between
problem and challenge????
STUDENT:3boys+1girl=problem
1boy+3girls=challenge..


Santa: Look a thief has entered our kitchen
and he is eating the cake I made.
Banta: Whom should I call now,
Police or Ambulance?



U r a nice person…
but..U have to do 2 things early in the morning…
1st. pray to God so that u can live….
2nd.take a bath so that others can live….

When u feel sad….
To cheer up just go to the mirror and say,
“damn I am really so cute”
u will overcome your sadness.
But don’t make this a habit…..
Coz liars go to hell !!!!




Today is an international day
for the mentally disabled .
Please send an encouraging
sms to a mentally disabled friend
I have done !!!



Twinkle Twinkle little star,
You should know what you are,
And once you know what you are,
Mental hospital is not so far




What is the difference between
Monkey & Donkey ?
Monkey saves this message
&
Donkey deletes this message.
Choice is urs……..



Dad : Son, what do you want for your birthday?
Son : Not much dad,
just a radio with a sports car around it.





Everything is incomplete without ME
..mory
Co..dy
Ti..
Ga..
So..thing
..aning
Even this ..ssage!
So dont forget ME

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Teacher To Student:
Can You Define Who Is LECTURER?
Student : A LECTURER Is A Person Who Has A Very Bad
Habit Of Speaking When Someone Is SLeeping.



Father to son:
whenever i beat you,
you dont get annoyed,
how you control your anger?
son: i start cleaning the toilet
seat with your toothbrush


Girl: When we get married,
I want to share all your worries,
troubles and lighten your burden.
Boy: It’s very kind of you,
darling, But I don’t have any worries or troubles.
Girl: Well that is because we aren’t married yet



TEACHER: Arshad, name one important thing
we have today that we didn’t have ten years ago.
Arshad: Me!

I wrote your name on sand,
it got washed.
I wrote your name in air,
it was blown away.
I wrote your name on my heart &
i got Heart Attack.

A Story Carries A Lot of Feelings


A Story Carries A Lot of Feelings

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A little girl and her father were crossing a bridge.





The father was
kind of scared so he asked his little daughter




"Sweetheart,

please hold my hand so that you don't fall into the river."



The little girl said, "No, Dad. You hold my hand."





"What's the

difference?"asked the puzzled father.





There's a big difference," replied the little girl.





If I hold your hand and something happens to me, chances are

that I may let your hand go.





But if you hold my hand, I know for

sure that no matter what happens, you will never let my hand go."





In any relationship,

the essence of trust is not in its bind, but in its bond






So hold the hand of the person whom you love rather than expecting them to hold ours...

A Real Friend & A Simple Friend



A simple friend, when visiting, acts like a guest.
A real friend opens your refrigerator and helps himself
and doesn't feel even the least bit weird shutting your
'cola/Pepsi drawer' with her foot!



A simple friend has never seen you cry.
A real friend shoulder is soggy from your tears..


A simple friend doesn't know your parents' first
names.
A real friend has their phone numbers
in his address book.


A simple friend brings a box of chocolate to your
party.
A real friend comes early to help you cook and
stays late to help you clean.


A simple friend hates it when you call after
they've gone to bed.
A real friend asks you why you took so long to
call.



A simple friend seeks to talk with you about your
problems.
A real friend seeks to help you with your problems.



A simple friend wonders about your romantic
history.
A real friend could blackmail you with it!



A simple friend thinks the friendship is over when
you have an argument.
A real friend calls you after you had a fight.



A simple friend expects you to always be there for
them.
A real friend expects to always be there for you!



A simple friend reads these words and deletes them.

A real friend passes them on and sends them to someone who is a real friend too


I'M MISSING YOU

Why can't I speak when I have so much to tell?
Why can't I write when I have so much in mind?
Why can't I sing when there's music in my heart?
Why can't I dance when there's rhythm in the air?

Too many words left unspoken
Too many things left undone
Why can't it be and why can't I?
For all I know this pain deep inside
Took the gladness from my heart.



Is this the pain of missing you?
Is this the reason behind it all?

When will the waiting ever be ove?
For as long as were apart I can never be whole
Oh! My Dearest Love
I just want you to know
That my heart is aching because

"I'M MISSING YOU!"


The Revival of Jane Austen by N. Zeynep Yelce

The Revival of Jane Austen
by
N. Zeynep Yelce
"Let other pens dwell on guilt and misery. I quit such odious subjects as soon as I can, impatient to restore everybody, not greatly in fault themselves, to tolerable comfort and to have done with all the rest."
Jane Austen

Jane Austen has returned to bring the world back to its senses. Hollywood's honest heroine for 1996 proved to be Jane Austen with Sense and Sensibility nominated for Oscar in seven categories and Emma nominated for Costume Design and selected for Music Original Musical or Comedy Category. Sense and Sensibility brought Emma Thompson an Oscar for Best Screenplay based on materials previously produced or published, making her the first woman to be nominated for both Best Actress and screenwriter in the same year.

It was in 1796 when Jane Austen started writing Pride and Prejudice in her small house in Chawton, Hampshire. Could she ever imagine in her wildest dreams that 200 years later her stories would interest millions of people from all over the world? Could she have believed that Sense and Sensibility would become the 160th most popular of all films made between 1900 and 1997? Could we, when studying Jane Austen in school and/or university, foresee that we would rush to the cinemas to see the latest Austen film? Hollywood could...

My reasons for writing this paper are not to discover whether Jane Austen adaptations are successful or not; but rather to find out why they have become so popular in a cinematic context dominated by action films. How could stories from the late 18th and early 19th centuries find an audience in an era dominated by disaster films?
Jane Austen's popularity can be traced back to the second decade of the 19th century. Although she started writing in her early twenties, her first book was published in 1811. At 36, Austen published Sense and Sensibility on her own expense. She had thought that sales of the book would not repay the expenses, therefore she had put aside some of her limited income. However, Sense and Sensibility not only covered its expenses, but made a profit of about £150. It was an immediate success; and encouraged Austen to write further novels. Pride and Prejudice followed in 1814 in three volumes; later the first edition of Mansfield Park, though it was badly printed and full of mistakes, sold out in six months.

The Revival of Jane Austen by N. Zeynep Yelce

The Revival of Jane Austen
by
N. Zeynep Yelce
"Let other pens dwell on guilt and misery. I quit such odious subjects as soon as I can, impatient to restore everybody, not greatly in fault themselves, to tolerable comfort and to have done with all the rest."
Jane Austen

Jane Austen has returned to bring the world back to its senses. Hollywood's honest heroine for 1996 proved to be Jane Austen with Sense and Sensibility nominated for Oscar in seven categories and Emma nominated for Costume Design and selected for Music Original Musical or Comedy Category. Sense and Sensibility brought Emma Thompson an Oscar for Best Screenplay based on materials previously produced or published, making her the first woman to be nominated for both Best Actress and screenwriter in the same year.

It was in 1796 when Jane Austen started writing Pride and Prejudice in her small house in Chawton, Hampshire. Could she ever imagine in her wildest dreams that 200 years later her stories would interest millions of people from all over the world? Could she have believed that Sense and Sensibility would become the 160th most popular of all films made between 1900 and 1997? Could we, when studying Jane Austen in school and/or university, foresee that we would rush to the cinemas to see the latest Austen film? Hollywood could...

My reasons for writing this paper are not to discover whether Jane Austen adaptations are successful or not; but rather to find out why they have become so popular in a cinematic context dominated by action films. How could stories from the late 18th and early 19th centuries find an audience in an era dominated by disaster films?
Jane Austen's popularity can be traced back to the second decade of the 19th century. Although she started writing in her early twenties, her first book was published in 1811. At 36, Austen published Sense and Sensibility on her own expense. She had thought that sales of the book would not repay the expenses, therefore she had put aside some of her limited income. However, Sense and Sensibility not only covered its expenses, but made a profit of about £150. It was an immediate success; and encouraged Austen to write further novels. Pride and Prejudice followed in 1814 in three volumes; later the first edition of Mansfield Park, though it was badly printed and full of mistakes, sold out in six months.

United States of America Country Brief Political

United States of America Country Brief

Political

The United States is a liberal democracy with a federal political structure comprising 50 states and the District of Columbia. The federal government is characterised by a separation of the powers of the executive from the legislative and judicial functions. The constituent states have significant powers of self-government.

Heading the executive is a president elected every four years in a national contest by universal suffrage. Voting is state-based on a first-past-the-post basis. Each state is assigned seats equal to the sum of its electoral representatives in a 538-member electoral college. The president serves as head of state, commander in chief of the armed forces and head of the civil service.

The legislature, known as the Congress, consists of the 100-member Senate and the 435-member House of Representatives. Senators are elected on a state basis and serve six year terms. Each state is represented by two Senators. Representatives are elected from single-member constituencies and serve two year terms. Congress has sole powers for the making of legislation and operates through a system of committees. Legislation must be approved by both chambers to become law. The president can veto legislation, but can be overridden by two-thirds majorities in both chambers.

The Supreme Court is the highest judiciary body in the United States and leads the judicial branch of the U.S. federal government. It consists of the Chief Justice of the United States and a number of Associate Justices decided by Congress. There are currently eight Associate Justices on the Supreme Court. The Justices are nominated by the President and confirmed by the Senate. The Court is the highest tribunal in the nation for all matters arising under the Constitution and the laws of the United States. It has the authority to invalidate legislation or executive actions which it deems to conflict with the Constitution.

The United States has two broad party coalitions, the Democrats and the Republicans. There is an absence of electorally viable third parties. The Democratic Party evolved from the party of Thomas Jefferson in the late 1700s. The Republican Party was formed by a coalition opposed to slavery led by Abraham Lincoln in the 1850s. Both parties embrace a wide variety of views and have supporters across the community.

Barack Hussein Obama is the forty-fourth and current President of the United States of America. President Obama was elected in the November 2008 presidential election. President Obama's term commenced with his inauguration on 20 January 2009. The next Presidential election will be held in 2012.

Congressional and gubernatorial elections took place on 4 November 2008. All 435 United States House of Representatives seats and roughly one third of the 100 United States Senate seats were contested in this election, as well as 11 state governorships. The Democratic Party increased its majority in both Houses, with a 256-178 advantage in the House of Representatives (1 seat in the House of Representatives is currently vacant). The Democrats also enjoy a 57-40 current advantage in the United States Senate (1 seat in the Senate is currently vacant). The Democrats made a net gain of one Governorship from the 11 contested.

The 111th US Congress was sworn in on 6 January 2009. Nancy Pelosi (D-Ca) was re-elected as Speaker of the House of Representatives and Senator Harry Reid (D-Nevada) was re-elected as Senate Majority Leader.

Bilateral Relations

Vital national interests are advanced through strong relations with the United States. As the world's largest economy and strategic player, the US has a significant influence in international affairs. We engage with the United States closely and advocate our views across a very broad range of international issues. While Australian and American interests converge on a majority of international policy issues, we do not agree on all issues. Where this is case, Australia pursues its interests separately from the United States.

Ezra Pound - The Garret

Come, let us pity those who are better off than we are.
Come, my friend, and remember
that the rich have butlers and no friends,
And we have friends and no butlers.
Come, let us pity the married and the unmarried.

Dawn enters with little feet
like a gilded Pavlova
And I am near my desire.
Nor has life in it aught better
Than this hour of clear coolness
the hour of waking together.

Ezra Pound (1885 - 1972)

Ezra Pound (1885 - 1972)

Ezra Pound is generally considered the poet most responsible for defining and promoting a modernist aesthetic in poetry. In the early teens of the twentieth century, he opened a seminal exchange of work and ideas between British and American writers, and was famous for the generosity with which he advanced the work of such major contemporaries as W. B. Yeats, Robert Frost, William Carlos Williams, Marianne Moore, H. D., James Joyce, Ernest Hemingway and especially T. S. Eliot. His own significant contributions to poetry begin with his promulgation of Imagism, a movement in poetry which derived its technique from classical Chinese and Japanese poetry - stressing clarity, precision, and economy of language, and foregoing traditional rhyme and meter in order to, in Pound's words, "compose in the sequence of the musical phrase, not in the sequence of the metronome." His later work, for nearly fifty years, focused on the encyclopedic epic poem he entitled The Cantos.

Ezra Pound was born in Hailey, Idaho, in 1885. He completed two years of college at the University of Pennsylvania and earned a degree from Hamilton College in 1905. After teaching at Wabash College for two years, he travelled abroad to Spain, Italy and London, where, as the literary executor of the scholar Ernest Fenellosa, he became interested in Japanese and Chinese poetry. He married Dorothy Shakespear in 1914 and became London editor of the Little ReviewPisan Cantos (1948). After continuous appeals from writers won his release from the hospital in 1958, Pound returned to Italy and settled in Venice, where he died, a semi-recluse, in 1972. in 1917. In 1924, he moved to Italy; during this period of voluntary exile, Pound became involved in Fascist politics, and did not return to the United States until 1945, when he was arrested on charges of treason for broadcasting Fascist propaganda by radio to the United States during the Second World War. In 1946, he was acquitted, but declared mentally ill and committed to St. Elizabeth's Hospital in Washington, D.C. During his confinement, the jury of the Bollingen-Library of Congress Award (which included a number of the most eminent writers of the time) decided to overlook Pound's political career in the interest of recognizing his poetic achievements, and awarded him the prize for the

Robert Frost - Into My Own

One of my wishes is that those dark trees,
So old and firm they scarcely show the breeze,
Were not, as 'twere, the merest mask of gloom,
But stretched away unto th eedge of doom.

I should not be withheld but that some day
into their vastness I should steal away,
Fearless of ever finding open land,
or highway where the slow wheel pours the sand.

I do not see why I should e'er turn back,
Or those should not set forth upon my track
To overtake me, who should miss me here
And long to know if still I held them dear.

They would not find me changed from him the knew--
Only more sure of all I though was tru

Awake ye muses nine ( Poems of Emily Dickinson)

Awake ye muses nine, sing me a strain divine,
Unwind the solemn twine, and tie my Valentine!

Oh the Earth was made for lovers, for damsel, and hopeless swain,
For sighing, and gentle whispering, and unity made of twain.
All things do go a courting, in earth, or sea, or air,
God hath made nothing single but thee in His world so fair!
The bride, and then the bridegroom, the two, and then the one,
Adam, and Eve, his consort, the moon, and then the sun;
The life doth prove the precept, who obey shall happy be,
Who will not serve the sovereign, be hanged on fatal tree.
The high do seek the lowly, the great do seek the small,
None cannot find who seeketh, on this terrestrial ball;
The bee doth court the flower, the flower his suit receives,
And they make merry wedding, whose guests are hundred leaves;
The wind doth woo the branches, the branches they are won,
And the father fond demandeth the maiden for his son.
The storm doth walk the seashore humming a mournful tune,
The wave with eye so pensive, looketh to see the moon,
Their spirits meet together, they make their solemn vows,
No more he singeth mournful, her sadness she doth lose.
The worm doth woo the mortal, death claims a living bride,
Night unto day is married, morn unto eventide;
Earth is a merry damsel, and heaven a knight so true,
And Earth is quite coquettish, and beseemeth in vain to sue.
Now to the application, to the reading of the roll,
To bringing thee to justice, and marshalling thy soul:

You make me feel like everything will work

You make me feel like everything will work.
Like life has hope and some meaning.
Someone wants to see me!
Someone wants me to call!
Someone is so wonderful!
Someone is so mending to my soul!
You have put a smile on my face.
I just hope I can put one on yours too.
Please, please be mine forever
So I can go on with this smile on my face
Without it feeling the least bit out of place.

Real Love &Imitation Love

Real Love: Unconditionally caring about the happiness of another person without any thought for what we might get for ourselves. There is only one kind of love—Real Love. Anything we use for a substitute for Real Love is Imitation Love. Through no fault of our own, few of us have either received or given much Real Love, and without it we have a terrible void in our lives.

Imitation Love: When we don’t have enough Real Love in our lives, the resulting emptiness is unbearable. We attempt to fill that emptiness with combinations of the following: Praise, Power, Pleasure, and Safety. Anything we use as a substitute for Real Love is Imitation Love. At best, Imitation Love provides temporary relief without fixing the problem. At worst, it allows us to “get by” and keeps us from looking for the Real Love that will eliminate our anger, confusion, and pain.

Love, Marriage, and Romance.

Which comes first: Love or Marriage?

It is somewhat of a chicken and egg situation.

Can two people learn to love each other?

Yes, according to a study by Gupta and Singh. Their study suggests that love in arranged marriage starts out very low but can
increase gradually over a period of years, surpassing that of romantic
marriages after about five years.

This is partially true because love in romantic marriages (also known to many as chemistry)
declines steadily. Many studies have shown this to be true.

For Americans and members of other cultures who think marriage must be grounded in love, romance, and chemistry, this seems impossible.

According to the PBS Television Special Lasting Love for Valentine’s in 2003, "Love is an enduring mystery to the human race. We don’t seem to know where is comes from, when it will strike, who it will attract us to and if it will last. Statistically, marriages in America have over a 65% chance of failure."

That is a dismal record.

Although arranged marriages are not as common as they once were, supporters of arranged marriages in India say their divorce rates are lower than western society because parents are better able to choose a suitable partner for their children.

Regardless, many studies have suggested when people go into marriages with the expectations of lasting love, whether they are arranged by parents, a personal matchmaker, or ignited by chemistry, love and marriage have the best chance of enduring.

Pride and prejudice ==>Themes, Motifs & Symbols

Themes, Motifs & Symbols

Themes

Themes are the fundamental and often universal ideas explored in a literary work.
Love
Pride and Prejudice contains one of the most cherished love stories in English literature: the courtship between Darcy and Elizabeth. As in any good love story, the lovers must elude and overcome numerous stumbling blocks, beginning with the tensions caused by the lovers’ own personal qualities. Elizabeth’s pride makes her misjudge Darcy on the basis of a poor first impression, while Darcy’s prejudice against Elizabeth’s poor social standing blinds him, for a time, to her many virtues. (Of course, one could also say that Elizabeth is guilty of prejudice and Darcy of pride—the title cuts both ways.) Austen, meanwhile, poses countless smaller obstacles to the realization of the love between Elizabeth and Darcy, including Lady Catherine’s attempt to control her nephew, Miss Bingley’s snobbery, Mrs. Bennet’s idiocy, and Wickham’s deceit. In each case, anxieties about social connections, or the desire for better social connections, interfere with the workings of love. Darcy and Elizabeth’s realization of a mutual and tender love seems to imply that Austen views love as something independent of these social forces, as something that can be captured if only an individual is able to escape the warping effects of hierarchical society. Austen does sound some more realist (or, one could say, cynical) notes about love, using the character of Charlotte Lucas, who marries the buffoon Mr. Collins for his money, to demonstrate that the heart does not always dictate marriage. Yet with her central characters, Austen suggests that true love is a force separate from society and one that can conquer even the most difficult of circumstances.
Reputation

Pride and Prejudice depicts a society in which a woman’s reputation is of the utmost importance. A woman is expected to behave in certain ways. Stepping outside the social norms makes her vulnerable to ostracism. This theme appears in the novel, when Elizabeth walks to Netherfield and arrives with muddy skirts, to the shock of the reputation-conscious Miss Bingley and her friends. At other points, the ill-mannered, ridiculous behavior of Mrs. Bennet gives her a bad reputation with the more refined (and snobbish) Darcys and Bingleys. Austen pokes gentle fun at the snobs in these examples, but later in the novel, when Lydia elopes with Wickham and lives with him out of wedlock, the author treats reputation as a very serious matter. By becoming Wickham’s lover without benefit of marriage, Lydia clearly places herself outside the social pale, and her disgrace threatens the entire Bennet family. The fact that Lydia’s judgment, however terrible, would likely have condemned the other Bennet sisters to marriageless lives seems grossly unfair. Why should Elizabeth’s reputation suffer along with Lydia’s? Darcy’s intervention on the Bennets’ behalf thus becomes all the more generous, but some readers might resent that such an intervention was necessary at all. If Darcy’s money had failed to convince Wickham to marry Lydia, would Darcy have still married Elizabeth? Does his transcendence of prejudice extend that far? The happy ending of Pride and Prejudice is certainly emotionally satisfying, but in many ways it leaves the theme of reputation, and the importance placed on reputation, unexplored. One can ask of Pride and Prejudice, to what extent does it critique social structures, and to what extent does it simply accept their inevitability?

Class
The theme of class is related to reputation, in that both reflect the strictly regimented nature of life for the middle and upper classes in Regency England. The lines of class are strictly drawn. While the Bennets, who are middle class, may socialize with the upper-class Bingleys and Darcys, they are clearly their social inferiors and are treated as such. Austen satirizes this kind of class-consciousness, particularly in the character of Mr. Collins, who spends most of his time toadying to his upper-class patron, Lady Catherine de Bourgh. Though Mr. Collins offers an extreme example, he is not the only one to hold such views. His conception of the importance of class is shared, among others, by Mr. Darcy, who believes in the dignity of his lineage; Miss Bingley, who dislikes anyone not as socially accepted as she is; and Wickham, who will do anything he can to get enough money to raise himself into a higher station. Mr. Collins’s views are merely the most extreme and obvious. The satire directed at Mr. Collins is therefore also more subtly directed at the entire social hierarchy and the conception of all those within it at its correctness, in complete disregard of other, more worthy virtues. Through the Darcy-Elizabeth and Bingley-Jane marriages, Austen shows the power of love and happiness to overcome class boundaries and prejudices, thereby implying that such prejudices are hollow, unfeeling, and unproductive. Of course, this whole discussion of class must be made with the understanding that Austen herself is often criticized as being a classist: she doesn’t really represent anyone from the lower classes; those servants she does portray are generally happy with their lot. Austen does criticize class structure but only a limited slice of that structure.


Motifs

Motifs are recurring structures, contrasts, or literary devices that can help to develop and inform the text’s major themes.
Courtship

In a sense, Pride and Prejudice is the story of two courtships—those between Darcy and Elizabeth and between Bingley and Jane. Within this broad structure appear other, smaller courtships: Mr. Collins’s aborted wooing of Elizabeth, followed by his successful wooing of Charlotte Lucas; Miss Bingley’s unsuccessful attempt to attract Darcy; Wickham’s pursuit first of Elizabeth, then of the never-seen Miss King, and finally of Lydia. Courtship therefore takes on a profound, if often unspoken, importance in the novel. Marriage is the ultimate goal, courtship constitutes the real working-out of love. Courtship becomes a sort of forge of a person’s personality, and each courtship becomes a microcosm for different sorts of love (or different ways to abuse love as a means to social advancement).
Journeys

Nearly every scene in Pride and Prejudice takes place indoors, and the action centers around the Bennet home in the small village of Longbourn. Nevertheless, journeys—even short ones—function repeatedly as catalysts for change in the novel. Elizabeth’s first journey, by which she intends simply to visit Charlotte and Mr. Collins, brings her into contact with Mr. Darcy, and leads to his first proposal. Her second journey takes her to Derby and Pemberley, where she fans the growing flame of her affection for Darcy. The third journey, meanwhile, sends various people in pursuit of Wickham and Lydia, and the journey ends with Darcy tracking them down and saving the Bennet family honor, in the process demonstrating his continued devotion to Elizabeth.

Symbols

Symbols are objects, characters, figures, or colors used to represent abstract ideas or concepts.

Pemberley

Pride and Prejudice is remarkably free of explicit symbolism, which perhaps has something to do with the novel’s reliance on dialogue over description. Nevertheless, Pemberley, Darcy’s estate, sits at the center of the novel, literally and figuratively, as a geographic symbol of the man who owns it. Elizabeth visits it at a time when her feelings toward Darcy are beginning to warm; she is enchanted by its beauty and charm, and by the picturesque countryside, just as she will be charmed, increasingly, by the gifts of its owner. Austen makes the connection explicit when she describes the stream that flows beside the mansion. “In front,” she writes, “a stream of some natural importance was swelled into greater, but without any artificial appearance.” Darcy possesses a “natural importance” that is “swelled” by his arrogance, but which coexists with a genuine honesty and lack of “artificial appearance.” Like the stream, he is neither “formal, nor falsely adorned.” Pemberley even offers a symbol-within-a-symbol for their budding romance: when Elizabeth encounters Darcy on the estate, she is crossing a small bridge, suggesting the broad gulf of misunderstanding and class prejudice that lies between them—and the bridge that their love will build across it